It’s A Music Festival World, And We’re Just Living In It

For the last five years or so, music festivals have become a fad that everyone runs to at the chance. But, quickly music festivals have become more about what your hair looks like, what shoes you’re wearing, how you’ll do your makeup, what accessories you’ll wear, etc, as opposed to the actual music itself. It’s basically a decoy for people to be full of themselves, without appearing as so. But, as this music festival trend has progressed, it’s become quite evident that it’s more along the lines of a buffet to feed people’s egos.

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To start off, let’s just run down the list of ridiculousness that these “music festival” goers go through, in order to supposedly celebrate and enjoy “music”. Two words…flower crowns. Flower crowns have become one of the most signature pieces to wear to music festivals. Perhaps it’s because they magically allow you to hear the music better….don’t they? Then, we have metallic body tattoos. You know those fake tattoos kids get in cereal boxes? Well, now they’re apparently cool for adults to wear too. Only, the adult ones are metallic to grab more attention and glisten in the sun…so poetic, right? Hair feathers….yes, making your hair look like a dream catcher is necessary in order to sing along with your favorite band at a festival. There are even set ways on how to do your makeup for a festival. You know, because after the musicians are done playing, they host a beauty pageant….

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With that said, music festivals have completely lost their original purpose. There are too many requirements now to attend a festival, and they all have to do with appearance, and nothing more.

These days we live life with our faces buried in our phones, putting most of our energy towards watching Instagram stories, searching for latest tweets, and scrolling through selfies on Facebook. We have now created this idea that we must compete with whatever we saw on social media. We have to out-do everyone’s posts, in order to prove that we have better lives than them.

Music festivals have now become home to the narcissistic. They are nothing to do with music, but instead all about dressing up into these “characters”, or “personas”, that you are not, in order to represent this untouchable/exclusive image of yourself. So, essentially, all the craze with “what to wear to a festival, how to wear it,” and wearing accessories you would never be caught wearing in the real world, is all for the almighty selfies, live videos, IG stories, FB stories, etc. It makes you look hip, cool, wild, and free. And, in return, you’ll get all the “likes”, and comments that will feed your hungry ego.

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Then, when you go home, and your family asks how the music festival was, you can ask them back, “what music”? What are they talking about? But, at least your flower crown is still intact…………. queue in the eyeball rolling emoji here.

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I’m Better Than You: The Narcissistic New Year’s Facebook Status

By Charlene Lazewski

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My journey through my social media escapades consisted of a lot of eye rolls, questioning where humble personalities have gone, and acknowledging that humility is just dead overall.

My entire news feed was full of statuses where people didn’t just generally wish everyone a happy new year, full of joy and health. Instead people, made their new year’s wish status about themselves. They listed each specific great thing that happened to them in 2016. From, “we bought our first home, traveled here and there” to “I got my dream job, got the promotion I wanted”.

Okay…great, wonderful! I’m glad that in this world where such horrible things have been happening to innocent people, you are doing so fantastic. But, do you really have to plaster it on Facebook? What does that do for the people you are friends with on Facebook, really? Call me old school, but I’ve always been under assumption that the holiday season, including new year’s is about putting yourself last, and doing more for others, spreading cheer, and most of all kindness. There are people out there that are reading your self indulged statuses, while they’ve suffered a lot of hardships in the past year. So, your status is most definitely not spreading holiday cheer. It’s unnecessary, selfish, conceded, and just makes you come out as narcissistic.

And, I know what some of you are thinking, “oh, well people are just thankful for all the good that happened to them in 2016.” THAT in itself is wonderful. It’s the specific listing of all the good, that’s the problem. That’s just throwing it in people’s faces. Where is the humility in that? Some people had a year of struggles, and your status is not making it any better. Forget about yourself for a second. Stop using social media platforms as tools to prove to people that your life is better than theirs’, and instead use it to inspire people, to spread joy, kindness, and wisdom. People will appreciate a person who manifests a humble and generous personality, more than a person who is a walking, talking, posting billboard for themselves. In the end, if you have to advertise yourself and your life so much on social media, than you’re just proving to be insecure. Confidence glows more with humility and silence.

Let’s stay grounded this 2017, and help one another prosper and succeed. In the end, that’s what a good year is all about.

Mirror Mirror On The Wall, Don’t Knock Me Down If I’m A Doll

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Since I was a pre-teen, I have loved getting dolled up in makeup. Of course, back then it was just a little bit of make up. Very natural looking makeup. Perhaps a little eyeshadow, some powder, and a pale lip gloss. As I got older, I liked to experiment with beauty products. Bolder colors, different styles, different techniques, etc. Now, here’s the problem. There are women who criticize or judge women like me. I have had other women come to my home on a weekday morning, weeks after I gave birth to my baby, and ask how and why I am wearing makeup and a cute outfit, when I JUST had a baby. Um, well because I care about myself. I love myself. And I WANT to ALWAYS look my best. I mean, in the end, I AM who represents myself at ALL times. No one else. So, why wouldn’t I want to look my absolute best. It makes me happy. It most definitely makes my husband happy. So, it’s a win win.

The way I see it, when I open my eyes up in the morning, it’s the beginning of a celebration. It’s another day I have been blessed with. Another day I get to kiss and hold my children. Another day I get to hug my husband and tell him how much I love him. Overall, another day I get to celebrate the life I have created for myself. Keyword: self. It starts with me, this little thing called life. And well, I want to get all dolled up for it all the time! I’m not saying, I’m going to look like I’m going to the Oscars every day. But, I WILL put on full makeup (usually something very natural looking, sometimes something a little bolder and daring – all depending where I am going that given day), every day. Other women have insinuated I like to wear makeup every day because I think I am ugly. The answer is absolutely NOT. I think I am beautiful without makeup. So, why not accentuate that beauty even more with some makeup every day?

Do other women who attack women like me, do it out of jealousy? Or are they frustrated because their views and my views don’t match? Whatever the case may be, women should just live their lives and rock whatever they are passionate about. If they think looking their best is wearing sweatpants every single day, putting their hair up in a ponytail, and wearing no makeup, so be it. That’s what makes them feel their best. That’s what gets them through their days, with a smile on their faces. That is how they celebrate their life. I am different, and I know that’s okay. Every woman is different, and I wish the women that were different, didn’t attack women like me.

I love makeup. I love fashion. I love looking beautiful. I love keeping my husband on his toes with a new hair do, a new outfit, etc. I love it when he looks at me like he did when we first fell in love, and it’s been 12 years together. But, more importantly, I love inspiring other women to experiment with their natural beauty. Sometimes, we women get so wrapped up in our busy lives, that we forget to really take time for ourselves. It doesn’t take long. Give yourselves 20 minutes every morning, and aim to look your best. Get dolled up. Play around with clothing you already own, create an outfit. Accentuate your natural beauty even more, with a little makeup. And finally, don’t forget the most important part of being beautiful….be humble and kind inside. Don’t attack women that aren’t like you. In the end, that is what actually makes a woman ugly.