Mean Moms Wear Pink On Wednesdays…

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We all are familiar with the 2004 movie, Mean Girls. It depicts how truly vicious high school social circles can be to one another, for really no good reason. As a mom of two young boys, I have come to realize that “Mean Girls” does not only apply to teenagers. It very well applies to many moms out there.

Since my oldest started going to school, I have met several moms. And with most of them, our first “play date” goes something like this….

“So, what do you do?”

“What does your husband do”?

“What do you do for fun?”

“What does your husband’s family do?”

“Are you guys vegan, gluten free, paleo, etc”

“How big is your house?”

And the list goes on and on. It is basically a domestic interrogation process. I remember the first mom I ever went on a play date with — I literally wouldn’t be done answering a question, when she would already start asking me another question. She didn’t give me a chance to finish anything. Was she a friendly mom, or a cop?!

That same mom later invited me to her son’s birthday party.  I remember being excited because it would be my son’s first little kid’s birthday party. Being that he was so little, I stayed with my son at the party. But, I let him do his own thing with the other children there. Me, on the other hand, had to swim through the seas of judging mommies. I felt the stares. I heard the whispers. I looked at my cell hoping it was time for the party to end. No one knew me. I was “the new mom”.

I decided to give myself an imaginary slap in the face, and approach these moms….say hello, and start up some good conversation. But, it was just plain awkward, and pointless. As I started talking to them, they would slowly start conversation with the moms they DID know, and leave me to fend for myself. I continued to try with other moms, but I was left like a lonely cactus in the desert. Why? I HAVE NO IDEA. Was it because I wasn’t brought into their circle by another mom? Was it because I wasn’t a part of the PTA board at the local elementary school? Was it because I was the only mom not wearing mom pants? Was it because I went to a kid’s birthday party in heels? Was it because I was wearing a full face of makeup? Who knows. But, what I did know was that if those were the reasons why no one really wanted to sincerely get to know me, than these “mom circles” were just like “The Plastics” in “Mean Girls”. And nothing about their theories or logic had any validation. And neither did mommy circles, apparently.

The years have now gone by. I have met more moms here and there, but I just can’t get into it. They do the interrogation, which is worse than dating. Then you have to wait and see if you “made the cut”. Oh! They’re calling you for a second play date! You made the cut! On the second play date, they talk garbage about the other moms they are “friends with”. And, as they’re talking about how ugly “Bobby’s mom’s hair looked yesterday”, I’m wondering what she says about ME, when she’s with Bobby’s mom! Just like Regina George!

It’s just an exhausting thing to deal with. I know not all moms out there are like this. But, where are they?! It’d be really cool to just meet some non-corny, overbearing, authentic, sincere, fun moms. You know, non crap talking, non PTA loving, non interrogating, non die hard crafting moms, just normal moms who just want to build real friendships with other moms. Not much to ask for, is it?

Now, I’m basically the “odd mom out” of the local preschool and elementary school. I don’t do the cliche mom things. I don’t go over other moms’ houses for coffee while our kids are at school. I don’t volunteer at every event my kids have at their school. I just live every day to make sure I’m raising my kids right, making my husband happy as he makes me happy, and of course working…because we all gotta make a buck, right?

With that said, Cady (Lindsay Lohan’s character in Mean Girls) said it right at the end of the movie, “It’s a jungle out there…”. That, it is. As a non conventional mom, all you can do is take it day by day. The “right one” is out there. The mommy friend who is also non traditional, and just wants to live life and love her kids. Done deal. One day, I’ll meet her. Wear a helmet moms…life’s tough….

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The Breastfeeding Feeding PRESSURE Is Real

Fashion Designer, former Hills Star, and new mommy, Whitney Port has been documenting her pregnancy from the very beginning. You can catch the series on Youtube, titled “I Love My Baby But…” . In her latest documentation, she talks breastfeeding, and the difficulty of it, and the pressures and judgements she receives from other moms. She wants to breastfeed for the baby’s benefit, but there have been latching problems, and extreme pain. At one point she says it feels like someone is taking shards of glass to her nipples. You can tell she is breaking from this mentally, emotionally, and it’s just heartbreaking to watch.

I’ve been in the same exact boat she has, and it sucks. Here’s what I have to say about breastfeeding….

I applaud every single mom who can breastfeed easily. It’s the best thing for baby, no doubt. BUT, it doesn’t come easy for some moms and babies. As long as you tried, it’s OK. There are always other options like pumping and occasional supplementing with formula. The MOST important thing is that you try, and seek assistance from professionals. If all that doesn’t work, whether it be latch issues or extreme pain, it’s FINE. The “Good Mom” thing to do, is to be happy while feeding baby (breast, pump, formula). And, that baby is also happy while getting fed. THAT is the REAL bonding experience. So, don’t let other moms say that only breastfeeding will give you that “bonding experience” with your baby. Bonding with baby is the connection between mother and child BOTH being in comfort, happiness, and pure bliss together at the same time. However you both get to that “bond”, is your business, and NO ONE should judge you for it.

So, take some time, and watch this video. All Whitney wants is to be a good mom, and do the best for both her and her baby boy.

10 Wedding Etiquettes You Should Break

By Charlene Lazewski

1. Brides Must Wear White On Their Wedding Day
With so many beautiful fabric, texture, and color options in dresses today, wearing a white gown on your wedding day is a tradition that can be cancelled out. In fact, before Queen Victoria of England, brides wore whatever color dress they wanted on their wedding day. Queen Victoria simply decided white would be her color of choice for her wedding gown, and for some reason, everyone followed after. So, really there isn’t, nor ever was a rule for a wedding gown having to be white. Pick YOUR color. Whatever color suits your skin tones/ hair color best.

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2. You Must Invite Out-of-town guests to your rehearsal dinner
This is like the “political correct” of the wedding world. It used to be that for your rehearsal dinner, you only invite your wedding party. But, now it has become the norm to also invite any out-of-town guests coming to your wedding. So, basically what used to be a “rehearsal dinner” is now a second wedding. Which means, M-O-N-E-Y. Like, you haven’t spent enough already, right? Instead of breaking the bank, keep your rehearsal dinner intimate, just for the wedding party. And, for your out-of-town guests, instead provide them with a well curated list of restaurants in the area they can go to. That way, you are still going out of your way to set them up with a little perk for traveling for your wedding, and you don’t go under the A-hole slot for not inviting them to the rehearsal dinner : ) Another option is to plan a little cocktail party after your rehearsal dinner, where you invite your out-of-town wedding guests. It’s fun, more low key, and best of all, a lot less money than having them at your rehearsal dinner!

3. You Must Invite Everyone With A Guest
You know how they say that the real work in wedding planning is the guest list? Well, that’s because it’s the most annoying task. Why? Because, it’s where you will either make family and friends love you for the rest of their lives or hate you. You will basically make or break relationships depending on who you include or leave out on the list. But, when the guest list grows, so does your wedding bill. And, let’s face it…. you can’t make everyone happy. It’s impossible. Always remember while creating a wedding guest list, this is YOUR day. Not your co-worker’s girlfriend’s day, or your boss’s daughter’s day. If people get offended that you haven’t invited their girlfriend or boyfriend of a month, so be it. Move on, and enjoy YOUR wedding day!

4. Your Registry Should Only Include Houseware Items
It’s your wedding day. You deserve whatever your little heart desires as gifts. It used to be the norm to register for all houseware items for you wedding registry. But, now people are registering for basically anything and everything. You can register for a honeymoon, sporting equipments, hobby supplies, the list goes on. Especially, in an age where many couples live together before marriage, they end up having a lot of household essentials already. So, why register for more household items. Break the norm, and register for what you really need/want.

5. The Bride’s Dress Should Be Long
With all that dieting and exercise you do to get ready for your big day, why shouldn’t you show off your nice legs?! Makes no sense to wear a long dress, right? Show those legs off in a short wedding dress instead. No need to workout, and then not show it off, right?

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6. You Should See Your Bride/Groom For The First Time On Your Wedding Day, At Ceremony
They say that if you see your groom before the ceremony on the day of the wedding, it brings on bad luck. But, does it really? More couples today are leaving the superstition behind them, and seeing one another before their ceremonies begin. Instead of catching the first glimpse of your bride or groom, in front of all your wedding guests, you can have this highly emotional moment in private. Photographers and videographers are more than happy to capture this special moment, so you can treasure it always.

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7. Seating At Your Wedding Should Be Divided By Groom And Bride Sides
Here’s why the whole “Bride side” and “Groom side” seating plan at a wedding ceremony, is pointless. The bride’s family might be huge, and the groom’s family may be small. So, what bride wants to walk in with a nice full side, and a sad empty side. Kinda depressing, right? But, if you let your guests sit wherever their little hearts desire, you’ll have nice full, and even sides to walk into. That sounds nicer, right? So, instead of having a designated bride and groom side at your ceremony, just let guests sit freely. Easier for you, easier for them. Sounds good!

8. You Must Walk Down The Aisle
Do you think that all brides must walk down the aisle? Most would answer ‘yes’ to that question. But, the truth is, you can just skip that long (sometimes even awkward) walk, and just meet up with your groom. Faster, and more simple…which means a win/win.

9.You Have To Leave For Your Honeymoon Right After Your Reception
This one is very old school. It was once the norm for married couples to leave for their honeymoons right after their reception. Anyone that has already gone through a wedding day, can tell you how exhausting THAT is alone. Imagine also having to travel after a super tiring and hectic day. Plus, having the thought in your head that you still have to travel after the wedding is done, can prevent you from truly taking your special day fully in. So, no doubt the best thing you can do is take your honeymoon a few days, weeks, even months after your wedding. You’ll be more relaxed, and able to really enjoy your romantic vacation with your new husband or wife.

10. The Bridal Party Must All Match
The majority of brides have their bridesmaids match in regards to dresses. Many grooms also have their groomsmen’s suits match. But, a trend has recently started where bridal parties don’t necessarily match exactly. Instead, brides and/grooms select a certain color or pattern, and then allow each bridesmaid and groomsmen to wear any dress/suit that fits into that scheme. And, in all honesty, it looks even more beautiful in pictures and in person to have everyone in different attire. It’s also a breath of fresh air for your bridal party, because not everyone can fit or look right into only one style dress or suit. We’re all fabulous, but we all come in different shapes, and sizes 🙂

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Style Me: Romance Is In The Air

By Charlene Lazewski

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Is your fashion style “romantic”? Not sure? Let us help you determine if that is your style personality. Do you like soft textured fabrics? Do you like to express your girly-ness through your clothing/accessories? Do you feel incomplete if you don’t accompany your outfit with some pretty makeup? Do you enjoy dramatic/flowing silhouettes? Are you a fan of neutrals and/or nudes? Are pearls and statement necklaces the perfect finishing touch to an outfit? Did you answer ‘yes’ to all of these? Okay, well then you are true romantic! Your style personality is 100% romantic.

Having a romantic style is good because as beautiful as it is, it’s timeless. If you go through fashion magazines from decades ago, and look at any designer that specializes in this style, you will notice that even through time, the designs have not changed. Why? Because a romantic sense of fashion is all about textures, and more importantly silhouettes. It celebrates soft, lacy, and silky textures, and flowing/light silhouettes.

In order to achieve the perfect romantic outfit, you should consider a few things:

Most of your colors for this style, will be nudes and neutrals. BUT, that  doesn’t mean that darker colors can’t be romantic. If you want to do darker colors, it becomes all about the silhouette. If it’s light colors you are working with, it’s all about the textures. Lastly, there is something you have to be careful about when putting this style into practice. Don’t over-do it. Being that one of the main characteristics in this style are textures and silhouettes, you want to make sure you don’t do too much of one thing. For example, the lace – it’s beautiful, but one lace item is enough. Perhaps a lace top with dress shorts, and nude heels. But, if we were to do a lace blouse, with lace shorts, and textured fabric heels….just too much. When it comes to silhouettes, same thing. Just one item should have a silhouette. Take Taylor Swift’s black and white look below, for example. Her skirt has a dramatic silhouette, but she keeps the look tamed and balanced with a fitted top. Follow those  rules, and you’ll be romancing the town with your wardrobe :) Let us help you with some visuals….

Inspire Me: Celebrities With Romantic Style

romantic-style-002From left to right: 1st Pic – Texture – lace / 2nd Pic – All about that silhouette / 3rd – Combination of texture with the top, and flow-y skirt

romantic-style-003From left to right: 1st Pic – Nudes are perfectly romantic/ 2nd pic – dark color, with a flow-y silhouette / 3rd – Combination of nude and flow-y silhouette

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She’s A Lady: The Essence of An Elegant Style

By Charlene Lazewski

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An elegant style personality is one that not only is sophisticated on the outside, but the person wearing it, is also sophisticated. A person who identifies themselves with this style is confident, cultured, well-spoken, is highly organized, and treats each clothing piece / accessory item as if they were part of a museum. Each piece worn is special individually, and when putting an outfit together it’s as if curating an art gallery display, or a museum display. If you have an open budget, luxury brands are your fave! But, that doesn’t mean that someone who has a smaller budget can’t be elegant. For the most part, colors for this style are kept toned down (black, red, grey, white). But, if worn right together, bold colors are acceptable too.

Some people may confuse this style with a classic style. There is a thin line between the two. The difference between the two styles, is that elegant is a bit more daring. Classic style incorporates very basic fabrics, silhouettes, etc. Where as elegant is classic, but with more of a “sass” if you will. Hence, the selection of items you can choose from, to achieve this style is a lot broader.

Another misconception about this style, is that you have to dress fancy. Not true. You can be as casual as you want with it, or as dressed up as you want with it. For example, if you want an elegant daytime look, throw on your favorite jeans, a tank, and layer it with a blazer of any color, and perhaps a scarf. Done. It’s as easy as that.

You have an elegant style if:

  • Your favorite color to dress in is black, no matter what season it is.
  • You prefer more polished or “neat” looking shoes
  • You want to appear admirable to people, versus approachable
  • You like classic looks, but like to mix it with a hint of sexy too
  • Your go-to nail polish colors are either red or burgundy
  • One of your most popular style icons are Coco Chanel, and Michael Kors
  • You love outerwear…your favorite item to wear is a blazer
  • You enjoy layering, i.e. scarves, jackets, vests, blazers

Inspire Me: Celebrities With Elegant Style

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From left to right: 1st Look – a polished look – collar shirt never fails for this style. Paired with linen palazzo pants. 2nd Look – Inspired by the queen of elegance, Audrey Hepburn. Soft tones on the bottom, paired with polished elegance on top. 3rd Look: Colorful, and a bit more of a casual look – but still elegant and sophisticated.

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From left to right: 1st Look – Perfect example of how classic meshes in with elegant. 2nd Look – Perfect example of how an elegant style can also be playful. 3rd Look – Another great example of classic and elegant joined together.

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From left to right: 1st Look – Perfect and most popular accessory for an elegant style – scarf! 2nd Look – The blazer accents the entire look. A simple dress, enhanced by the elegance of a blazer. 3rd Look – A more toned down elegant look. Simple, yet sophisticated.

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Drama Queens Unite: The Style For The Fabulous

By Charlene Lazewski

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If your style personality is dramatic, you are one fab diva. And, we mean that in the best way possible! When you have this style, your self confidence oozes out of you, spreading a sense of authority with the way you dress. You dress like this because you like it, and really don’t care what anyone has to say about it. Making bold statements with everything you choose in your outfit is a must. From fabrics, to your hair, nails, shoes, makeup, jewelry….it all has to cause jaws to drop, and eyes to wonder about you (also, in a good way).

Sometimes, people confuse this style personality, and portray it to simply be about anything sexy or sultry. But, that isn’t the case. It’s about taking any style, and express it to the fullest degree. Which means, this style is very heavy in details. It’s definitely not about just throwing on a tank top and a pair of jeans. For example, if you like to dress with a bohemian style, go all out with it. Professional stylist, Rachel Zoe is a great example of this. Her style is Boho/Chic, but at the same time, her style personality could be categorized under dramatic. Why? Because, she maximizes the boho/chic look with so many details…..taking her look to a whole other level. If there were a scale of dressing boho (1 being the lowest, and 10 highest), Rachel makes sure to always be a 10 with everything she wears. Each outfit she composes is a project…an artistic piece. See for yourself:

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Notice how every single accessory she has on supports her dress, builds her look, and in the end helps her entire outfit flow. She took her boho look to the top by doing this. A dramatic effect.

Still not sure if you have a dramatic style personality? If you do, you…

  • You enjoy a good makeup session on a daily basis
  • Looking “fabulous” is your most important goal every day
  • You hope to inspire people around you with your outfits
  • You hope to freeze a room when you walk down the street, or into a room….all eyes on you.
  • When it comes to selecting an outfit, it’s all or nothing.
  • You’re always on the lookout for new and undiscovered trends
  • You enjoy starting fashion trends/looks

Inspire Me: Celebrities With Dramatic Style

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From left to right: 1st Look – Had she not paired with “dramatic” stiletto boots, the outfit would have worked. But, she not only made it work, she worked it! 2nd Look – A Hollywood Goddess look with a dramatic silky fabric. 3rd Look – The outfit itself may not be too dramatic, but she turned it up a lot of notches with her dramatic and bold makes and accessories.

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Oh Dita, we think her looks speak for themselves….

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Rachel Zoe takes all her looks to such a refined level. And she does so with a keen attention to detail for accessories, silhouettes, and textures. A dramatic, and perfect approach to all her outfits.

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Creative Style: Personality, Independence, No Worries

By Charlene Lazewski

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Having a creative style personality is all about confidence, choosing clothing more about the way it makes you feel, than the way it makes you look, and you are most attracted to unconventional fashion items. Patterns of all kinds are your weakness, and so are all the colors in the spectrum. It takes creativity, and more importantly, a high level of self confidence to achieve these looks. Although this look incorporates a lot of mix matching, the way you wear it and carry it, looks balanced and flowing.

If you keep people wondering, and trying to guess what your next outfit will be, then you fit this style. They will never guess right. And, that’s the whole point. You are very independent, and represent that independence with your wardrobe.

So, to re-cap, these are the main things to remember when achieving a creative style:

  • Patterns of all kinds are key
  • Colors are vital, it’s all about brights and vibrancy
  • mixing textures, colors, patterns is encouraged
  • silhouettes don’t matter – fitted with loose, loose with loose, etc, it’s all fine
  • If you feel good, wear it…who cares if it matches
  • Opposites attract

You have a creative style personality if:

  • You love colors of all kinds
  • You love making a statement with your outfits
  • You could care less what people think of your wardrobe
  • You enjoy expressing your current state/mood through your clothes and accessories
  • Meshing patterns and silhouettes is a norm for you.

Inspire Me: Celebrities With Creative Style

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From left to right: 1st Look– A dress with an unconventional silhouette, and a plethora of colors. 2nd Look – Business on the top, party on the bottom. Total opposites, but she made them work. 3rd Look – A boring sweater meets with a girly and vibrant skirt, and they become best friends.

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From left to right: 1st Look – Intense florals with a variety of textures and silhouettes. 2nd Look – Fun colored and patterned pants, with a fun and flirty hair do. 3rd Look – Spring skirt, meets with goth top.

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From left to right: 1st Look – Unconventional patterned pants. 2nd Look – Abstract colors, opposite colors paired together. 3rd Look – Unconventional pants paired with opposite patterned shoes.

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